Fewer people may be sending handwritten notes these days, but thank-you cards still haven’t gone out of style. At least they shouldn’t, according to etiquette experts.
While it can be confusing trying to figure out the “proper” way to communicate in various situations, there are some agreed-upon guidelines for how to send your thanks. For example, gifts received at parties generally warrant a handwritten thank-you note. Think birthday parties (for both children and adults), bridal or baby showers, and anniversaries. Another rule of thumb: if you received a gift in the mail or a gift that wasn’t opened in front of the giver, your best bet is to send a written note. The same goes if you’ve received something that has been made specifically for you. Lastly, if you’ve been treated to a kindness or gift during a difficult time, like an illness, death, or hospitalization, then you should absolutely express your gratitude with a handwritten note.
For gifts given during the holidays or “just because,” a verbal thank-you is perfectly fine, especially as you most likely opened the presents in front of the giver. But is it ever okay to send just an email? Of course! Thank-you emails are perfectly acceptable in work situations and when you don’t have a person’s physical address. They’re also more than enough if you want to thank someone for a small kindness, like a neighbour picking up your newspaper.
At the end of the day, though, what matters most is that we all remain generous with our gratitude. Being thankful will never go out of style.